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Weekend Homework

by JM

notebook-edge.jpgHello and happy Friday all! Fridays are wonderful in the world of the M-F 9 to 5 work force. I’m not a part of that work force, but my husband is. I love the anticipation of Fridays. He comes home and I know I have him all to myself for the whole weekend.

I’m only a little greedy. I promise. Ha!

Fridays are always good for weekend homework as well. The weekend’s assignment is about working on yourself and the way you handle arguments.

Earlier this week I talked about arguing. As I said in that post, there are good ways and bad ways to handle an argument. One bad thing to do is to start all your sentences in an accusing manner by saying, “You… You…�

“You never help. You never listen. You never understand.�

It’s pretty easy to see how this kind of talking from both sides would do nothing but lead to a bigger argument.

It’s one thing to notice a habit, but it’s another thing to change that habit. This weekend, your homework is not only to identify your ‘you’ habits but to start work on changing them.

Sit down and list five things to your partner (“you do this, you also do this�) and then change the ‘you’ statements into ‘I’ statements.

For example: “You never do the dishes� could be turned into “I feel frustrated because I never have help doing the dishes.�

See? It’s not accusing and it better expresses how you’re feeling about the thing in question.

Try it out a bit more if you like, and try to get your partner to do it as well. It will be good for both of you.


Posted in Weekend Homework on February 29th, 2008

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