Weekend Homework
On a site that is dedicated to couples and long relationships, this bit of weekend homework might come across as odd or even misplaced. However, I do have my reasons…
When you’re in a relationship, it’s more than easy to become wrapped up in the needs, wants, and even moods of your friend/partner/family member. This focus can be so intense that you forget that you have wants and needs as well. You may forget to take care of yourself.
I would be willing to bet that right now, while some people are shaking their heads at the thought of forgetting to take care of themselves, many more are nodding because they know exactly what I’m talking about.
As I said, it’s so easy, but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy. Yes, it’s healthy to care, but as my husband says, the pendulum has to swing the other way. There has to be balance in your life and a time where you say, “Okay, now it’s my time to focus on me and what I need.�
It’s not selfish to take care of yourself. It is to focus on yourself all the time, but it isn’t if you’re often so focused on everyone else that stress becomes part of your daily life.
So your assignment this weekend is to think of yourself and take time away from everything. You may only be able to do that by shutting the bedroom door rather than taking a spa day, but do whatever you can. Focus on you. Spoil yourself. Realize that the world will not end if you take a shopping day, don’t do the chores, and don’t focus all of your attention on other people for a day.
Enjoy yourself.
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