Together In Spirit
As Valentines Day draws closer, I can’t help but think of the couples who must spend the lovely day apart. Some are separated by a few hours and some are separated by whole countries.
Some get separated for a few days and some for a few months.
Be it the Army or work, there are a lot of things that can mean time away from each other for couples.
Time separated can be a breath of fresh air sometimes, but separations that happen often and/or for long lengths of time can put a lot of stress on a couple.
Last year my husband and I put in my spousal visa and we didn’t know if I would be forced to leave the country while the application was being processed (due to timing) or if I would be able to stay while things were being sorted out.
The prospect of being separated for an unknown amount of time scared me so much and sent me into tears many nights.
Thankfully, I got to stay in the country and everything worked out. Unfortunately, things don’t work so well for other couples.
Always remember that there are things you can do to stay close to your partner even when s/he is not physically with you:
1. Email!
2. Postal letters
3. Phone calls (and phone sex)
4. If the above things aren’t possible, for every day your loved one is away, write a love letter. That way, when s/he comes home, s/he has a whole pile of love letters to read.
February 14th, 2008 at 11:55 pm
I’m apart from my honey today
but I’m used to it. I will tell that being apart from him for week(s) at a time is tough but it has caused us to look at our marriage from a different view. I see others that struggle to keep things…good..and they see each other every day. I can’t imagine some of these couples if they were separated for any amount of time.
It is hard work to keep our marriage strong but we know it is something that we have to CONSTANTLY work on-we can’t let it slip. For us, the cell phone is our life line. Without it, I’d be lost. I HAVE to talk to him at least three times a day or I feel lost and I miss him so much. It’s a good thing we have unlimited calls to each other or we’d be supporting at&t
February 15th, 2008 at 12:01 am
*huge hugs* I can’t imagine being separated from my husband for weeks at a time. I admire your and your husband’s strength and the strength of your marriage. Letting it slip would be so easy, and keeping it together shows how dedicated you are to each other.
I hope you and your hubby are back together again soon.