Time Together, Time Apart
Last night, the husband and I went out for some of our favourite – Mongolian BBQ. He’d been late home from work, so it was nice to go out and relax some of the stress away.
As we sat and ate, he told me the reason that he was late was because he had a meeting with a couple other people from his section. The company he works for is setting up a site in another state and he’s needed down there for a weekend to help set up. (My husband is a computer guy. (Purr.)) He’ll fly down and fly back.
I’m used to going on trips with him and it’s pretty well known that I do travel with him. They told him yesterday that they are fine with me going as well so long as I’m okay occupying myself with whatever during work hours. That is absolutely fine with me, but there is just one thing…
We have to pay for my ticket.
While a state to state, domestic, flight shouldn’t cost that much, ‘that much’ could still prove to be too much. Talking with my husband today, I realized that if I don’t go on the trip, it’ll be the first time since I arrived in Australia that we would be apart for a night. (In this case, two or three nights.)
While it’s quite sweet and romantic that we haven’t been apart one night for more than a year and a half, I mentioned to my husband that if we can’t afford the ticket, maybe it would be good for us.
I’m wondering: Have you spent nights apart from your partner? Do you think spending nights apart (for whatever reasons) is a good thing? Or does it not matter?
June 12th, 2008 at 10:45 am
My husband has had to stay out of town many times for his work. I rarely go with him, my choice. If he is going to be gone an extended amount of time, he comes home on the weekends.
I think it’s healthy for the relationship to have some time away from each other.
Once in a while I’ll just go somewhere on my own too.
I’ve known people that are just too dependent on each other and never spend time apart. And it’s not because they enjoy each other’s company so much, but I often see it as they don’t know how to enjoy being by themselves anymore.
June 12th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
It is sad to see people who spend time with each other only because they don’t know how to spend time by themselves. However, does separation being a healthy thing necessarily make having no separation time (besides working hours) an unhealthy thing?