Thinking of Baby
This past weekend was a busy one full of making a mess of the flat, doing laundry, building furniture (we bought two new bookshelves and a new bed, all of which we had to put together) and grocery shopping. It was definitely more active than our usual weekend, but as we finally got the chance to sleep on our new bed last night, it all felt worth it.
On Saturday, the man and I were both pretty tired after a hard week of work, so we decided to heck with it and took an afternoon nap. It was wonderful to have the time to rest as well as well as cuddle a bit and just be with each other.
I woke up a bit before he did, though, and I got to thinking about our lives and how nice it was that we could just take an afternoon nap. While it wasn’t a new experience for me, by any means, it was one of life’s little moments that I have come to so appreciate.
After a while of just blissing off, the thought occurred to me that if we had a child, random afternoon naps would steadily go from ‘whenever’ to ‘never’.
While I sometimes feel down about not having a child and starting a family just yet, it’s times like these that I feel good about not rushing things. The maternal instincts are steadily growing stronger but so is the appreciation for the quiet times I spend with my husband.
August 30th, 2008 at 8:13 am
I’ve been married for 5 years and still don’t have kids. A lot of people wonder why we still don’t have any. It’s hard to explain that while I do want to become a mother, I still feel like my husband and I are growing so much as a couple… and I guess having a child is something we’re both not ready for. Should s/he come into our lives, we’d be immensely happy. But for now, we continue to enjoy each other, and yes, like you, those random lazy afternoon naps.
August 30th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
It’s nice to hear from someone who knows what it’s like to face that sort of “Why don’t you have kids yet?” stuff from other people. It’s good to see people who are doing what’s right for them instead of giving in to the ‘normal family timeline’ pressures.
September 1st, 2008 at 12:30 am
Oh I’m here to tell you that naps are still possible if done right! Aidan is 2 1/2 and I still get a nap every day if I want to-granted that happens because i’m pregnant so I can use the excuse. But even when Aidan was first born, I was able to squeeze out an hour for a nap.
The key is to be willing to give up something else you could be doing. This was hard for me-I can be quite anal over certain things. Instead of washing dishes, I took a nap. Sure I still had to do them later but I have become much better at multi tasking!
September 1st, 2008 at 12:33 am
I think parenthood is a great way to learn multitasking. Hehe.
Very true. I forget that kids like naps, too.