The Man Behind the Curtain – What Happens in Happily Ever After
The Wizard has been revealed, he has given gifts to all his new friends, and he has sent Dorothy back to Kansas. Now he is left with the aftermath. Does he go back behind the curtain? Does he make all new rules for what is revealed and what isn’t? Does he create a whole new illusion or use the opportunity to reinvent himself?
Our relationships are constantly changing in many ways. What holds true on your first anniversary could change completely by the second. One way of handling things could be revealed as something that doesn’t work and gets changed for something better.
When I began writing, I didn’t envision a series of posts on this subject. I planned on writing about how me not talking about the negative parts of my marriage was a matter of ego and how I didn’t want to damage the shiny image. I’ve since realized that there’s much more to it than that.
One post has changed into a series that encompasses privacy, the masks we wear and how illusion can become reality.
Most importantly, I have realized that it shouldn’t matter that I don’t talk about the negative things – everyone knows they are there. In the end, everyone is human. People who think they or others have the perfect relationship are living in a fantasy realm that will collapse sooner or later. Everyone argues. People go to bed angry. Yet the world still turns.
It’s not a crime to complain, but nor is it a help. Remember privacy and your partner’s feelings. Remember that we create our environments and if we hold to the illusion too strongly, it will become the reality.
Best wishes to all of you.
JM
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