Sex After Pregnancy
Today we have a special guest post from my friend Jenera. She’ll be writing for Long Relationships this week.
We’ve all heard the stories about how your sex life changes during and after pregnancy. Some of it is true, some of it isn’t.
With my first pregnancy, our sex life never suffered. In fact, it was some of the best sex we’d had in our short marriage. I’m not sure why but it was. For us, I was lucky enough to have no complications that prohibited us from having sex right up until the last week. Some folks are not as lucky.
But how about after delivery? After the magical six week waiting period while your body heals?
I’m here to tell you that was a bit tougher. Of course there is the fear of something getting hurt or things not feeling quite right. I was scared. For me, that night after the go ahead from the doctor, I wanted to cry because I was so scared. It was quite literally like the first time.
The one thing that helped us was that we were both aware that things just might not happen. Taking it slow was essential. This is an important time in every relationship. Though sex should always be important, there is some pressure after the baby arrives.
The thought that I had just delivered a baby, a son, for this man that was being so kind and so gentle was almost more than I could bare. Sex changed for us after having our baby but in the best way possible. It was like another bond that made it even more special. Knowing that our love had created another little being and we had something to share forever, made that night even more special.
I’m not ashamed to say that I cried. It was a beautiful moment. Like our marriage had come full circle in a way. I was affected emotionally more than physically.
Sure, people will tell you that the physical aspects can be scary. My biggest piece of advice is be prepared for the flood of emotions you will feel towards your partner, yourself, and your life. It will change you.
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