Second Time is a Charm Wednesdays
Well, let’s be honest. I’m bummed just reading my own posts on Second Time is a Charm from the past few weeks! We’re certainly in a funk! It has been a trying few weeks and our sadness has carried over into this thread. We have been in court with M for what feels like the hundredth time arguing over the likelihood of ocean-front property in Arizona and the price of tea in China.
Last week though I found compassion in the soul of a person who truly needn’t be bothered with our pain over this second go ’round. Stretch took the entire day off of work to support R in court and act on our behalf if needed. He wasn’t needed. Instead, spending three hours outside the courtroom without hearing a word of the discussion, feeling fairly useless and helpless to R.
When he returned home with R, he wasn’t frustrated, upset, tired, or anything else. He was still concerned. He was concerned that there was not a single shread of resolution to R’s problems with M. He was concerned that R and I felt the weight of the continued discord. He looked at us as friends, dear friends and wanted to do something.
I began to weep at my upset. Stretch walked past R, who was also upset and gave me a hug. “You know what you need,” he said.
“I do?”
“Yes.”
“I give. What?” I said, wiping tears from my cheek.
“You need to read Page 47. Remember?”
“The dark night of the soul comes just before revelation. When everything is lost, and all seems darkness, then comes the new life and all that is needed” — Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion.
So, maybe we’re turning a corner in all the discord? Maybe we’re on the same damn corner we’ve been on for years now. But it’s our corner, our home, our family. And, we need to avoid letting that discord define our happy moments. That revelation is true enough to live by and set our clocks by–as our souls heal and revel in the love that is all around us.
second time is a charm, ex-wife, ex-husband, second wife, relationships, long relationships
December 20th, 2006 at 12:30 pm
I’m so sorry to hear that things are feeling bleak. It seems that we always get taken one step past what we thought was our breaking point before that rainbow appears. Here’s hoping yours comes really soon!
Hugs,
Holly
Holly’s Corner
December 21st, 2006 at 5:38 pm
So, true. I see a small rainbow today. We’ll be able to see our blessed angels for Christmas Eve and Christmas morning.
And have the hope for many more.