Play dates aren’t just for the kids anymore!
Between careers, social lives and kids (if you have them!) it is increasingly difficult for couples to find time they can devote exclusively to each other. Even more so, it is difficult to carve out time to play intimately as partners, that doesn’t occur fifteen minutes before you fall asleep or ten minutes before the kids wake up in the morning. Despite the routines of our lives, even happy couples should devote playtime to each other. Not only will it keep you feeling young but also it just might lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner.
Play dates can include a variety of things. Massage, food, toys and active imaginations can all be accessories in your bedroom. Now wait, I didn’t say try everything at once! More important than any of these objects, is developing an open communication with your partner about exactly what play you would love to engage in. If you’re new to this kind of activity, devote the time to talking with your partner—engaging in discovery about each other’s wants and cravings. That will definitely lead to a better first experience!
No matter the things used in play, the true reward comes from devoting significant time to your partner. Trying to understand their deepest, most sensual needs and communicating yours fosters a deeper connection that will be felt in and out of the bedroom. This increasing emotional awareness will carry over into how well you interact with your partner every day. The tedium will feel less overwhelming when you have worthwhile memories and more play dates to look forward to! So, put the kids to bed early, turn off the TV, or let the dishes wait until tomorrow—it’s time to play!
Exercise: Have an open dialogue with your partner (out of bed) about what interests them in the bedroom. Pick something to try that interests you both.
couples, sexual intimacy, significant other, relationship, adult play
October 17th, 2006 at 9:58 pm
God, do I need a play date!
October 23rd, 2006 at 7:55 pm
Yes I agree I need a play date. I have a 5 yr old and I do not know what time alone with hubby is anymore. I wake up at night thinking that that person snuggled up to me is my hubby only to find out that the person next to me has real tiny feet stuck to my back as he pushes me out of the way. Apparently he had a nightmare and came in in the middle of the night.
hmmmm…. Know any good sitters?