No Mother Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is a non-event for me and Mr. JM. His mother is deceased and neither of us feel particularly positive towards our mothers.
Of course, that is the sort of thing that will get you dirty words and worse if you say on Mother’s Day.
There is this absolute disbelief among some people out there that you could possible dislike your parents – especially your mother. I know people who got treated like absolute crap by their mothers, and yet, for me to not want to call my mother on Mother’s Day? Blasphemy.
The thing about parents is that they are the closest people to you growing up and you trust them the most. With that kind of automatic response in children towards their parents, it is the parents’ responsibility to be careful with that love and trust. If they abuse it, then it should be no big surprise when a child decides to cut off the relationship when s/he can.
My mother has decided not to acknowledge at lot of the things that she has done, leaving us unable to work things out (which I would love to do) and move on in our relationship. Thus, I’ve decided not to acknowledge holidays like Mother’s Day or birthdays.
I know, it may seem petty, but it’s not really a revenge thing. What it really comes down to is me not worrying about remembering birthdays or holidays because I can’t do it anymore. I refuse to pretend we’re some wonderful mother-daughter duo when we certainly far from that.
However, there were good times, and I try to remember that. I also remember that, for all the bad that is out there, there are a lot of absolutely fantastic mothers who leave me in complete awe of their abilities.
To all you mothers out there who are doing the best you can by your kids, I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day.
Someday, I hope to join your ranks.
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