Money Man
I’ll admit it: I like to cruise WebMD. It’s like a free doctor’s visit, especially when I have little questions about things like diet and exercise.
I was cruising around the site when I found the article 11 Don’t-Tell-the-Wife Secrets All Men Keep. Lo and behold, big secret number four actually has something to do with what I have been posting about this week and last: money.
Secret #4: Earning money makes us feel important
In more than 7.4 million U.S. marriages, the wife earns more than the husband — almost double the number in 1981. This of course is a terrific development for women in the workplace and warmly embraced by all American men, right? Right?
Yep, cry sexist all you want, but guys still want to be the breadwinners.
And that’s okay!
I’m not telling you (ladies) to stunt your career aspirations just to keep your man happy, but do keep in mind that guys still like to be the provider in the family.
I love that my husband is the provider. In my line of work, I’m not going to be making steady money anyway, so it works out with him as the provider with his steady job.
Other couples might be the opposite, maybe because the woman earns more money, but that’s no reason to rub it in your man’s face or remind him at all if you can avoid it.
When you’re planning out your finances with your partner, be assured that he will notice if you’re paying three bills and he’s paying two. He will notice if you’re buying him more drinks at the pub than he is for you.
It has nothing to do with sexism and everything to do with validating the way your man feels about financial things.
So the next time a guy wants to cover the bill, let him. Don’t cry out sexist if a guy offers to carry your luggage or opens a door. He’s being nice, you big silly.
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