Love Question Thirteen
We have another good question this week from Short Sweet Love Poems that could get a bit interesting…
When we first start out on a relationship, we will usually try to look our best. We will think a little (or a lot) of what to wear, which perfume to put on and so on. After a while, though, when the excitement has died down and we start to get comfortable in the relationship, many tend to slack on their appearance.
Which brings me to Love Q #13:
Does appearance matter in a relationship? Should you always try to look your best for your date?
This is a fun one. I reckon that on the first date, you should go somewhere that you’ll get really messy. Paintballing, four-wheeling, etc. It breaks the ice quite nicely, getting down and dirty (not in a naughty way) on the first date.
That being said, appearances to matter to a certain extent. While I think constant ‘flawlessness’ is a bit much to expect of anyone (and could border on an obsessive compulsive disorder), I also think that your appearance tells other people how much you care about yourself.
No one wants to be with someone with really bad hygiene and neither does anybody want to be with people who don’t care about themselves in general. If you can’t muster up the energy to care about yourself, can you really maintain a healthy relationship?
I’d love to hear what you think. Leave your comments here or leave me a link to your blog where you answered the question.
Have a great day!
July 25th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
Actually, hygiene is not what I’m tyring to get at with this Love Q although many people go down that route when answering this. However, ability to take care of oneself is still a good mirror of the type of person a date may be. Some people tend to think that we should look our best when going on a date because that shows respect and courtesy to our partner. Do you think so? Or should we just be casual and be ourselves although that would make us look plain?
July 26th, 2008 at 10:27 pm
My husband is very low maintenance. For him, taking a shower and putting on deodorant is about as good as it gets. But I love that about him. Whether he’s dressed up or just in his every day jeans and a t-shirt I love him. For me, he tries to shave and keep things trimmed up. That’s all it takes for me, lol.
Now on my end, while I by no means get all girly and gussied up on a daily basis, I do take a few extra minutes getting ready on the days he is going to be home. I think it’s because I want to see that look in his eye when he sees me looking all cute. Plus it makes me feel better and I feel more confident.
Even if you’ve been married forever, I think every so often it’s good to put forth a little extra effort on occasion. Not every day by any means, just every so often.
I know my hubby likes it.
July 28th, 2008 at 6:07 pm
Aud - True, but I think you do have to mention hygiene at least in passing when you’re talking about appearance. As for otherwise, I think it’s a bit subjective. Plain to one person is beautiful to another. It also depends on the date. t-shirt and jeans are fine for a movie, but not if you’re going to an upmarket restaurant first. I think you should respect your date, but don’t put too high standards on yourself (or your dress)from the first date because it might be a standard you’ll be expected to life up to constantly.
Jenera - My husband is pretty much the same and it works for me.
I like looking nice, but most of the time I’m quite relaxed about how I look and I don’t think the husband minds. I think it makes the times when I do get gussied up that much more special.