Love Question Six
Is it Wednesday already? Nobody told me. Pfft.
Wednesday means another interesting question as part of the love question series at Short Sweet Love Poems.
Some people prefer their partners to have good looks. Some would rather they have the money. Others, on the other hand, would think inner beauty should supersede everything else. In short, different people have different sets of criteria when looking for a partner.
So, for Love Q #6, let’s see what each of us want in a partner with this question:
What are your top 5 criteria for choosing a mate, in order of priority? In other words, what is your ideal partner like?
It’s hard to rank one as more important as another, but I’ll give it a go:
Intelligence – I need to be with someone who is intelligent and can teach me things. I’d like to be able to teach him things as well.
Maturity – I did not want to have to be the ‘adult’ in the relationship. We both needed to have reached a certain level of maturity.
Love of life – The person I’m with doesn’t have to be bubbly by any means, but I don’t think I could be with someone who couldn’t see beauty or meaning in life.
Conversation – I need to be with someone who can have a good conversation with me. One of the things I love most about my relationship with my husband is that we have lengthy, deep conversations about things that matter to us.
Height – I really hate to admit this one. Honestly, I debated even saying it, but ever since I was a little girl, part of the ‘ideal mate’ package was that he was as tall or taller than me. Don’t ask me why – it’s just something that’s always been.
What are your top five qualities?
June 4th, 2008 at 10:18 am
1. Someone that appreciates life and living it fully. That means he has passions, likes adventure, being affectionate. Just embraces life.
2. Someone that respects life (I’m a vegetarian and it’s an important part of me)
3. Sense of humor-I love laughing.
4. Maturity-someone I can talk to, learn from, grow with.
5. Masculinity-JM this is like your tall answer. I want to feel that he is male. It’s a hard line because I don’t want him to be macho and cool guy, I want him to be expressive…I just want him to look and smell like a man. Hard to explain if you aren’t in my head.
June 4th, 2008 at 8:29 pm
Haha! You like someone taller than you? Actually I have wrote about this once in my other blog and guess what? There are many women out there who are like you… they prefer taller men.
June 4th, 2008 at 9:49 pm
I can honestly say that I cannot list in a specific order what is important to me. I used to have a huge list of requirements of what I thought I wanted. Then I met the hubby. There was not one single thing that made me go, Yep he’s the one. It was more like I got hit upside the head and saw everything I’ve ever wanted in him.
I cannot think of what number one trait he has that makes me stick with him. I just can’t.
June 4th, 2008 at 11:46 pm
Aud, I’m one of them too…I love that my husband is taller than me. I’m 5′6″ and he is 6′1″ and it’s perfect for me.
June 5th, 2008 at 8:37 am
I love your list! Yes, intelligence and maturity are very important. Well, if I can list top 10 instead of top 5 criteria of choosing a mate, I’ll definitely put those two on the list.
June 5th, 2008 at 7:35 pm
Haha. I’m glad I’m not the only one who likes a taller man.
Shannon - My hubby and myself are almost exactly matching your and your hubby’s heights.
Jenera - I had a very hard time with this and was just about to put what you wrote.
June 6th, 2008 at 12:00 am
After thinking about this, I’d have to add that maybe the major thing that I find important is that my hubby makes me feel safe. That is very big for me.
Not only physically but emotionally. He’s a big guy and I know with him around I’m safe. But I also know that I can be vulnerable with him too.
June 7th, 2008 at 1:29 am
I agree completely with that, Jenera. I feel the same with my husband.