Love Question Seven
Short Sweet Love Poems brings us another love and relationships question to ponder this week. Remember, you can answer here or on your blog. If you answer on your blog, be sure to leave a link here and on the SSLP site so we can all read what you have to say.
Many people believe that love is everything in a relationship. We all marry for love expecting that it will see us through the good and bad times. Love gives rise to passion and can make our lives happier.
But in a relationship, we cannot love in isolation. We may have people around us with nothing good to say about our partner. We also cannot survive on love. We need money and the lack of it may lead to quarrels. We certainly cannot expect our partner to change to suit us. We need to accept and even tolerate his character or bad habits. And a host of other issues confront us daily that test the strength of our relationship with our partner.
So, for Love Q #7, tell me this:
Is love alone enough in a relationship?
Ah, this is going to be an interesting one.
While I think it’s incredibly romantic to say that love alone can carry a relationship, I don’t think that’s true. I want to believe it’s truly, very much so, but I simply can’t.
First you face the basic needs. Food, water, shelter, etc. We all know that. Barring the basic necessities, though, I still think a relationship needs more than just love if it wants to survive long term.
There is trust. There are things in common – you need a few of those if you ever want to get along. You need to be able to communicate somehow.
The mix is different in every relationship, but it remains that every relationship needs more than love.
June 14th, 2008 at 12:00 am
You have put it very well. Trust, respect, commitment, etc… and yes, money!! I think we all need those to make things work long-term.
June 14th, 2008 at 5:17 am
Sorry, I think other wise. Read mine to find out why…
June 14th, 2008 at 5:33 am
Aud - Thank you.
Amidrin - You have some interesting points, but we’re going to have to disagree with this one. Maybe you can have a relationship with no trust, no respect, etc, but it’s not a healthy relationship.