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Love Question Five

by JM
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It’s another week and that means Short Sweet Love Poems has another question for us that has to do with love…

I know I have written about this before in my other blog but I think this one does make an interesting debate.

All females want equality but some still prefer their partners to be old-fashioned gentlemen. Other women, on the other hand, would like everything to be on an equal footing. So, when it comes to the first date, this question arises for Love Q #5:

Do you think a man should pay on the first date and if he doesn’t, what would be your impression of him?

I think a good general rule of thumb is that the person who asks pays. If I asked a guy to go to the movies or out to dinner, I’d expect to pay for the date. If he asked, I’d bring money, but I’d expect him to pay.

That said, if a guy insisted on paying, then that’s fine.

What would I think of him… I think if a guy asked me out and then didn’t pay, then he wanted to go out as friends. I wouldn’t be insulted or anything like that.

Don’t forget to check out Annz and Mountaingirl to see what they have to say on the matter. If you are participating, be sure to leave a link here as well as at the SSLP page so we can all check out your answer.

I hope you all have a lovely Friday and a lovely weekend as well. Get outside and enjoy! Spend some time with the ones you love!

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6 Responses to “Love Question Five”

  1. Shannon Says:

    I agree that whoever does the asking should be the one to pay for the date. I am kind of old fashioned too that I think a man should pay in general. And it’s not about women being equal to me, I just like the old fashioned courting. Letting a man chase after you and treating you special. If you don’t make a man put some effort into it in the beginning, just setting it up so he doesn’t have to later on either.

  2. Aud Says:

    Personally, I would like the man to pay, especially if there is some romantic feelings there. But then again, if the relationship is still in the very early stages and I’m not too sure where it is heading, I don’t think I would mind paying though.

  3. Long Relationships » Blog Archive » Chivalry, Courtesy, and Everything In Between Says:

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  4. Jenera Says:

    I agree that he/she who asks should be responsible for paying for a date. That said, I’ve always been prepared by having cash or debit card. In the few dates I had been on I would also offer to either help with the check or if we were doing multiple things help pay.

    But I don’t think it is inappropriate for the man to be expected to pay if he has done the asking. But I don’t think a woman should take advantage of that and order the most expensive thing either.

  5. bunny Says:

    Call me old fashioned, but I expect a man to pay for the first date. Besides, it’s usually them who ask first :P

    I remember a time when a guy asked me out and I ended up paying for the date (his share as well!!) - that pissed me off! Firstly because we both knew he was interested in me, and I knew I wasn’t interested in him at all. So I never answered his phone calls afterwards.

  6. JM Says:

    In general I would like a man to pay. But in this day and age, I wouldn’t be surprised to find me paying or a 50/50 split if I had done the asking.

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