Love Question 64 - Past and Present Lovers
Hello and welcome to this week’s installment of love questions.
Comparison. What’s the better deal? What gives you the most ‘bang for your buck’? What’s the best price? Yada yada.
I think that we live in a world filled with a lot of comparing. Many of us live in a so-called land of plenty, but many of us can’t afford the plenty on offer, so we scramble and save, compare and contrast, all to get the best possible option.
Does that extend into relationships?
To be honest, I have compared Mr. JM to the guys I was with in the past. Mr. JM has it pretty easy, though, because a lot of my past relationships were with jerks.
I don’t think we can help but compare sometimes; we don’t think about it on a conscious level. Does that make it right? Well, that’s what I’m thinking about this week. I would never say to my husband, “Well, you’re nothing like boyfriend X because he wouldn’t have done that.” I think that’s wrong and just plain hurtful.
But to idly compare every now and then…
This week I’m wondering:
Do you ever compare the person you are with now to people you have been with in the past?
(If you’re not with anyone at the moment, feel free to call on past relationships.)
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Have fun!
August 20th, 2009 at 10:25 am
I did a bit in the beginning but Daniel is so completely different from my ex that it didn’t last long. Plus my ex is kind of an ass, lol.