Love Question 20
I am a bit stunned that we are already on question twenty for the Love Questions from Short, Sweet Love Poems. Am I the only one who feels like 2008 is going by fast?
Anywho, we have an interesting and potentially fun question to answer this week, so let’s get right to it, shall we?
Different people tend to have different attractions and turn-offs when it comes to the dating game. For example, when we are meeting someone new, we all focus on different things such as the looks, eyes, figure, legs, clothes or the way the person talks or walks to form an opinion on him or her.
I know of men who mentally strike off a woman as potential date by looking at her legs and I also know of women who judge a man by the way he eats. If we can have a little fun this week for Love Q #20, let’s answer this:
What are the things that you tend to focus on when it comes to sizing up a potential mate during that crucial first encounter?
This one is a bit tricky, given I met my husband on the internet, but I’ll try to cover it from all angles.
The very first things I used to notice when I met a potential mate in person were the eyes, the smile, and the laugh. I just plain have a thing for eyes, and the smile and laugh were important in judging how easygoing and what kind of sense of humor a man had. After that, it was the little things – did he go too fast, did he listen as much as he talked, was he a slob or overly neat.
The first thing I noticed about my husband – and that I noticed in potential online romances before him – was the command of the English language. I was instantly attracted to how much my husband’s sense of humor was wrapped up in wordplay and how we could connect over intelligent conversation. He also had enough respect of me and others not to drop into “n3t sp33k”.
When I met my husband physically for the first time, I pretty much notice ‘the whole package’. I noticed that he was tall (yum), was hygienic, had awesome, awesome hair, very sexy blue/green eyes… True, I was already in love with him, but still.
How about you?
September 12th, 2008 at 10:23 pm
I met my hubby online too so it was different for us. But we started talking on the phone almost right away after sharing a few emails. The first thing I noticed was that he would call just to say hi, with no other motives. It was odd to have someone genuinely interested in me and my life. I remember the day I knew he was the one-we still hadn’t met in person-he called and I was having a terrible day. He called a few hours later just to make sure I was okay. I knew in my heart that was it.
When I finally met him in person a few months later I first noticed that he made me feel safe. A big burly guy and that first hug was everything. Then of course the physical stuff like the beautiful eyes, the strong arms, the humor, etc, kicked in. But for me, it was all about being safe.
September 13th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
For me, I think a man has to appear confident to be able to make me feel attracted. How he project himself and his manners are also a clue to his character.
September 14th, 2008 at 2:03 am
Jenera - I know exactly what you’re talking about with the feeling safe.
Aud - Confidence is a good thing, definitely.