Love on Sunday
Today’s thought: Love is not short-lived.
We’ve all heard that the lusty hormones wear off after 18 months and that if you “make it thru the first five years you can make it thru anything.” All of those scientific facts and cliches are lousy synonyms for true love’s staying power. In my experience, the lust will ebb and flow with all things in your life. And, though the first five years may be the hardest (fingers crossed), that is no reason to sit on our laurels and forget to nurture our love.
Just as love is not short-lived. It is not easily “turned off.”
I have been witness and receiver of much love in my life. For that I am grateful. I have seen love evolve into many different things, just so that it can keep itself alive. This Christmas may be more melancholy than any other in my life, but the joy will be found. And, the love is certainly still there.
love, lovers, marriage, relationships, long relationships
December 18th, 2006 at 1:59 pm
Melancholy…I feel that. I feel that today and a few others. Someone once told me, though, when you’re feeling something, sit down and take a look around…acknowledge it and acknowledge it will pass at some point. Life goes too fast…enjoy today for the joys IT brings rather than worrying about the sorrows of yesterday or the potential ones tomorrow. “I’ll think about that tomorrow.” S.
December 18th, 2006 at 4:25 pm
There are no hard-and-fast rules about love, and it sets up false expectations when we hear them. The “seven year itch” is just as trite and useless a yardstick for connubial bliss as any other. Relationships change over time, and one can’t ever be sure about where they’ll go.
Just look at all the 50-something women who are now dumping their spouses and living the life they crave without encumbrances?
December 21st, 2006 at 6:03 pm
“I’ll think about that tomorrow.” Well, Scarlett, sometimes that works. But, you’re right. Sitting down and feeling it is a good place to start. Acknowledge the melancholy instead of just pushing it away. It is worth feeling in all its sadness. That way, you can better feel when you rise out of that emotion, better feel the origins, and better find your way out of it.