Love Nest or Pig Sty, Tip #1
Not all of us can jet off to a B&B every other weekend to recharge the intimacy in our relationship. Truth be told, I can’t remember the last time we went anywhere without the kids, much less “jetted.” A speed directly in front of reverse is usually our course. With four little monkeys we find it difficult to escape. There are too many of them, blocking all exits and windows as in previous attempts.
I actually grabbed the diaper bag when headed out by myself last week instead of putting my wallet and phone into a purse. (A purse, what’s that?)
Still, you’d like to feel like you’re escaping somewhere when you make love to your spouse, right? There’s nothing like being in the throws of passion and constantly looking about at things to be done, if your bedroom also doubles as laundry area and office. Talking to your husband about how many loads of laundry you have to do tomorrow as he’s kissing you, just isn’t good foreplay.
If you’re cramped for space, much like we are, there are still some ways to mask the mess and create a sanctuary in your own tiny quarters. That way, when you go to bed, you’re not bringing the rest of the household with you.
TIP #1: Get rid of clutter. If you use the bedroom as a staging area for laundry, make sure that the laundry is in a container that can be easily tucked away. No dirty clothes out in the open. If the bedroom is also your office, keep the desktop clear of papers and such. Create and inbox or stashing place for papers so that if you don’t have time to tend to it right then it does not become disorderly.
Tip #2, Tip #3, Tip #4, Reader Tip
relationships, marriage, bedroom, love nest
December 7th, 2006 at 9:54 am
C. told me once that kids are Nature’s birth control, meaning they destroy intimacy and romance. It’s like when both of you have the flu: it’s just something you have to get through. The good news is, though, that when the kids are grown, the new-found freedom you gain helps make up for the “empty nest.” In fact, keeping up that bird analogy, it’s easy to see why the mother bird pushes her fledglings out of the nest!
December 7th, 2006 at 1:43 pm
Nature’s birth control. We must be immune since we have four of them. We joke that we’ll buy them luggage for high school graduation.
But, look for the third tip in a few hours. There’s an interesting trend that talks about kids in the bedroom being counterproductive to creating a “love nest.”
December 7th, 2006 at 4:04 pm
what abouat when one of you is a neat freak and the other tends to be the pig? can you address that?
December 8th, 2006 at 5:53 pm
We have three, and were thinking about a fourth when it just didn’t happen. Given all the strain from the third, I’m just as glad.
December 9th, 2006 at 12:46 am
Our three are his, mine, and ours. We love them all dearly, but the fourth is the reason that we did completely lose our minds during what was a very messy divorce with my husband’s ex-wife.
We have two boys (youngest) and two girls (oldest)…perfectly matched, perfectly crazy…