Love and Support
This week we have been talking about couples and weight. I have been thinking for a while about how I wanted to close this subject (for now) in a way that relates to relationships in general. What’s the bottom line that truly connects it all together?
Support.
In relationships, in weight loss, and in many other things, support is what will keep you going. Support is what will help you to accept your mistakes instead of letting your mistakes rule you.
Weight loss is very hard. Everyone who is heavy is heavy for a reason. Sometimes someone just truly loves good food and flavours. Other time, overeating is a coping mechanism that grows into a habit the person keeps whether or not they are still getting over the original issue.
Psychology is – or should be – as much of a part of weight loss as exercise is. Unfortunately, we still rely on pills, try to find the quick fix, address the physical and not the mental or emotionally, and everything else to avoid addressing the underlying issues.
That’s where the strong support of a partner (family member, or friend) comes in. A supporting partner will be there to be strong when the other person simply can’t. A supporting partner can make the difference in a day of depression versus a week or even a month.
So for those of you out there who have overweight partners, encourage your partner to live a healthier (and thus likely longer) life no matter how much it may hurt his/her feelings at the time. Encourage your partner in all his/her weight loss goals.
And be there when your partner starts uncovering the reasons behind being overweight.
Because when you’re trying to lose weight, a strong support in your life is worth more than anything else in the world.
PS. If you’re trying to lose weight, never ever be afraid to admit you want/ask for help.
February 1st, 2008 at 11:59 pm
My hubby has been super supportive. He has also been helpful in reminding me to slow down-that i don’t need to drop twenty pounds in one month. He is reminding me of the healthy ways to attack the issue and not get caught up in what I see on TV or online.