Getting Away From it All
Last week I asked Mr. JM if he would like to write a guest post about taking holidays together. He wrote me five. I decided to put them up this week.
Sometimes we travel not so much to be heading, but more to be leaving, somewhere. It may be our lives have been circumscribed by the humdrum, that our work has throttled our free nature or those around have become just to familiar.
A good way to deal with any of these is being able to get out and about, to jump on a train or get in your car, and head for places unknown. In such times, who needs (or even wants) a specific destination? Part of the adventure is just pointing the nose in a direction and seeing what comes.
Again, such a trip can be much better if it is being shared with someone who feels a similar need to breech the boundaries we find surrounding us in our daily lives. To be able to turn to someone and say ‘look at that’ and have them know just what it is about ‘that’ which caused your exclamation is to bond with that person in a way that can only come from shared experiences.
Going off on such a journey all alone can be a good time, but when one comes home and re-unites with the partner, there is a distance between what was experienced and what can be shared of it. That gap may or may not contribute to a personal distance between partners, but it certainly doesn’t promote closer togetherness.
So Split Enz had a good line, I think, in the ‘If you leave me, can I come too’ thought – they meant it a little differently but I think it is a very appropriate line for the idea of travelling with your partner.
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