Friday Free-For-All – Best Friends
Hello and happy (late) Friday! I know this is a little late, but I’m hoping to make this a regular thing here. When we’ve done it, people have enjoyed it, so here’s to things we enjoy and conversation!
Inspired by the Weekend Soiree over at Wifely Steps (and pretty much using her idea, to be honest, but you can go over there and play on her site as well!), we’re going to have a bit of conversation here on site. I’ll be responding when and where I can, but it would be great for the readers to respond to each other as well.
If you make a comment and it doesn’t show up, let me know using the ‘contact me’ button under the site description on the right. That way, as soon as I see the email I can rescue it from the depths of the spam filter. But, seeing as the spam filter is no longer regarding me as spam, I’m hoping none of you will have any problem.
The way the game works is this:
I pick a theme that we’ll be talking about and will start off things with a question. The first person to come along will then answer that question and ask another question still relating to the theme.
Eg. The theme is peanut butter. I ask, “Do you like peanut butter?” Someone answers and at the end of the comment asks, “When was the first time you tried peanut butter?” So on and so forth.
Easy? Yes, I thought so. Which brings me to the theme and the question for this week:
Theme: Best Friends
Question: Do you have a best friend?
August 30th, 2008 at 3:00 am
The funny thing is, I have several best friends. Goes against what “best” really means huh? My husband’s my ultimate best friend. My friend K is my ultimate girl best friend. My friend A is another best friend of mine from work. Hahaha! But yeah, if it boils down to one, it is my husband.
What was the name of your very first best friend?
August 30th, 2008 at 3:04 am
Thank you for stopping by!
I reckon if your partner is your best friend, then that’s a great thing for the relationship.
My very first best friend’s name is (was?) Theresa, but I called her Teri. She was a great friend and we did pretty much everything together. She moved to Florida when we were about nine or ten, though, and we lost contact.
What is a quality that makes a friend a ‘best friend’?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:21 pm
[Thanks to Toni for sharing this site]
I have a handful of best friends but I don’t know if I can truly qualify the kind of friendship I share with them. It’s not that we didn’t have disagreements, we did. And with some the age gaps are significant. We don’t get to talk to each other as often too since we all live far apart, some in different countries. But when we do get to talk, it’s like time stands still and we are able to pick up from our last conversation. And even if we don’t talk, the silence becomes comforting. I guess the one thing I have with each of my best friends is the feeling of being “home” with each one. We know that we love each other. We know that we are always there for each other in spite of being who or where we are.
Do you need a best friend?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:22 pm
No, I don’t think you *need* a best friend. I’m doing just fine without one. I used to have someone I thought was my best friend, though, and I do sometimes miss that super-close bond I shared with her. But that doesn’t make my good friends any less of friends now. I love them too.
Do you think the term ‘best’ friend is overrated?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:29 pm
I think people nowadays do not understand what friendship is. That’s why terms like BFF or frenemies come about. So yes, “best” friend becomes overrated.
What’s the difference between a best friend and a friend?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:33 pm
I suppose the only real difference is the level of closeness. You’re closest to your best friend(s), a little less close to your friends, and even less so to acquaintances.
As a child, did you ever share special ‘just for best friends’ things like friendship bracelets, diaries, secrets, etc?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:33 pm
I don’t think the term best friend is overrated (maybe overused. Young people seem to say omg like you are totally my best friend one week and next week they are enemies). I think if you can find a true best friend in life, you are very fortunate.
Would you prefer your best friend to be female, male or it wouldn’t matter?
August 31st, 2008 at 9:34 pm
oops I answered and when I did, more came in in the meantime. Disregard mine.
August 31st, 2008 at 9:35 pm
No worries. I’ll answer yours.
I don’t think sex matters as long as you have that level of closeness, but there is a difference. I don’t think a male best friend would like to hear about his female best friend’s period and that sort of thing.
September 1st, 2008 at 12:17 am
Apparently I’m way behind on checking blogs, I didn’t even know there was a new post! Anywho, on to the questions.
I’ll answer a couple:
~I did exchange ‘friend’ stuff throughout the years. The most important and permanent was a tattoo-we both have the exact same one that we got at the same time.
~I think you can exist without a best friend but I think it’s good to have one. Right now I guess I have a couple-my hubby and my mom. But I also think there are different levels of friendship. Some friends you can share certain things with and others you can’t but that doesn’t mean they are elevated to best friend status.
~For me the difference between ‘friend’ and ‘best friend’ is most apparent after a fight or a long time of no communication. If at anytime you can go back to each other and know you have their support as if no time or hurts passed by, that is a best friend. I have a particular friend that we have gone through great and very terrible times but I always knew she’d be there. And I am there for her. Her being terribly sick and in the hospital has changed a bit but I did not hesitate to drive over 400 miles when I first heard despite our last contact.
~I’m not sure that men and women can be best friends but only because I think there is a level of intimacy in any best friendship that could cause issues in a man/woman friendship.
Hmmmm….My question is, if you have classified a friend as ‘best friend’ will they always remain that even if there is a falling out? Like “once a best friend, always a best friend”?
September 1st, 2008 at 12:21 am
And that’s exactly why I have a feed reader.
I don’t think that ‘best friend’ necessarily means ‘best friend no matter what’. Sometimes things can happen that just plain can’t be fixed, as I have personally experienced.
What is the best present you have received from a best friend? (Or ‘good friend’ if you don’t have a ‘best’ friend.)