Control - Part One
Recently, a friend emailed me while feeling very emotional about her current situation. I read her email and just about cried because I knew what she was going through. Not down to the exact elements of the situation but in the overall feelings, I could definitely relate.
When I was growing up, there wasn’t much I had control over. I suppose I could have tried to take control, but due to certain elements of my past, I did what I thought was expected of me. Be nice. Get good grades. Try to be an overachiever. Bring a good reputation to the family name. So on and so forth.
While there are those from my past who will disagree, I was primarily submissive. I wanted to just get things done that were expected of me and find what peace I could in life.
Having that little amount of control in my life was not good. It eventually affected all parts of my life, including mood. It got to the point of being so bad that big changes had to be made for me to survive and have the life I wanted. To have the control I needed.
While not having control of anything in life is appealing to the select few, most of us like to be part of a team in relationships. Give and take. I control my activities, you control yours, we work together to make them mesh nicely. It’s when someone tries to tip the balances of control that the problems happen…
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