Your Kink, My Kink
Monday, November 17th, 2008
When it comes to kinks – in the bedroom, out of the bedroom, whatever – I pretty much live by a simple saying: “My kink is okay, your kink is okay.” In other words, I don’t judge people for the things they do (if they’re not along the lines of murder and other crimes) and I hope people will not judge me for the weird/different things I do.
I’m not a particularly kinky person by nature. I feel that when it comes to things – both in and out of the bedroom – I’m a pretty standard, run of the mill person and so is my husband. We have our quirks, but that’s about it.
It wasn’t always that way, though.
When my husband and I met, he was well and truly in place with who he is. Me? I was in a pretty screwed up environment and I had no idea what was going to happen from day to day. I tried different things, hung out with different types of groups, tried different fashions, etc.
Even now I’m not quite firm on the woman I am and the woman I want to be, but I have definitely settled down into a groove of sorts as far as my habits and desires. There were times in the past, though, when my ways and my husband’s ways didn’t mesh and we had to work through things to find a level of understanding and acceptance.
Some people aren’t willing to change to accommodate their partners, however. They consider any move to change them a statement of prejudice against whatever it is you are attempting to change, even if it’s just a little bit.
Have you ever been with someone who was unwilling to change, even though the behavior was damaging the relationship?
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