Long Relationships

Relationships are the things that can completely define our lives. Some we choose, some we don’t, but we maintain a level of control with all of them. Sometimes it doesn’t always feel like we have any control in some relationships, and that’s where the problem starts.

It may feel silly to say that your spouse is a bit of a bully or that you don’t know what to do because your parents make you feel awful but they’re you’re parents so you should love them…but you definitely aren’t alone when it comes to these type of things.

When you talk about your life and the reasons behind what you do, the term ‘should’ will probably come out of your mouth a few times. It’s the ‘should’ that alerts you to training that you received growing up. “I should love my parents unconditionally. I should obey my husband.�

It’s because of this training – the ‘shoulds’ in our lives – that we often stay in unhealthy relationships even though part (or all) of us knows that the relationship is bad for us. But it’s not exactly easy to reach out for help – especially with all those ‘shoulds’ floating around in our heads and the feelings of being silly or over sensitive.

If you’re concerned about a friend, family or romantic relationship in your life, one place you might want to start is at ReachOut.com.au where they have an awesome list of fact sheets about all kinds of relationships. They provide the basics on information about romantic and non-romantic relationships.

I hope you find it useful.

I am in a mood for linking today, so I thought I would put up a list of a bunch of relationship quizzes I have come across over the weeks I’ve been writing here. Some are more serious than others, but I’m a complete quiz addict so the level of seriousness doesn’t usually matter to me…

Enjoy!

Quiz One – Pretty straightforward about how your relationship is going. I scored an eighty, which doesn’t sit well with the perfectionist in me, but there are a lot of questions not asked and I don’t need to have perfection in my relationship.

Love Personality Quiz – This quiz isn’t that great, but it rated me zero percent realistic about love, which made me laugh out loud, so I decided to stick it in here anyway.

Are You a Secure Lover? What’s Your Arguing Style (And More) – I have to admit it: I thought the URL of this place was hilarious so I decided to check out the quizzes. Can you blame me?

The Positive Way – This is another site with a lot of quizzes, so I figured I would just link to the main page and let you take a look through them.

How Good of Friend are You? – For the last quiz on today’s list, I decided to link to something non-romantic because it’s not always all about the romantic love.

I hope you enjoyed this brief vacation away from seriousness into the land of nearly pointless time wasters and other odd amusements. I won’t do it too often.