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Hi,

I’m Lisa Daily.

I am a TV relationships expert (on Daytime, a syndicated morning show) and I just wrote a novel called Fifteen Minutes of Shame.

It’s a romantic comedy about a TV relationships expert who finds out her husband is cheating. I’m in the midst of a 22-city book tour right now, tromping all over the country, and readers are showing up at book signings bearing wads of tissues and industrial-sized tubes of frozen cookie dough.

The first question most people ask is,

“Is this a true story?”

The answer is that some parts are true. But no, my husband did not dump me on national TV. At least not yet.

Here’s an excerpt from my new book, Fifteen Minutes of Shame

Hope you enjoy!

Best,

Lisa

Chapter 1
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Hello everyone, and welcome (back) to Long Relationships!

This week has been a very special one, as the ladies who wrote The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire (pictured on the left), Rachel Greene Baldino and Judy Ford, are taking over my blog this week! Every day this week, one or both of the ladies will be answering a question about their book and about enhancing sexual desire in your relationship.

Whether you’re new to a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, this book can help you put some spark into your sex life as well as help you to nurture the physical side of your relationship. If you would like the chance to win a copy, check out this post.

So, without further ado, I turn this blog over to the lovely ladies for the last day. I hope you’ve enjoyed their time here as much as I have.

On to the last question!

“How can you become a sexual team player?”

Rachel: Sexual teamwork is at the heart of this whole book. And as Judy always says, the three key components of sexual teamwork are Touch, Talk and Time.

That is, couples have got to find creative ways of making time for their sexual relationship (and their relationship as a whole), and they have got to talk openly about sex and about all other facets of their lives together, and last (but certainly not least!) it’s important to engage in sensual and erotic touch as a way of continuously reinforcing both emotional and physical intimacy.

Welcome back to Enhancing Sexual Desire week here at Long Relationships.

This week, the lovely ladies who wrote The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire, Rachel Greene Baldino and Judy Ford, are answering a question about enhancing sexual desire each day.

This month the ladies are touring with Pump Up Your Book Promotion Virtual Tours to get the word out about their book. (And it’s an excellent book I’m happy to have a copy of! If you would like a free copy, check out this post.) Whether you are new to a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, this book has something for you!

On to today’s question:

“What can we do this Valentine’s Day to create an intimate rendezvous with our lover?”

Judy: An intimate rendezvous is best when you slow down and shift your focus from doing to being. Valentines Day is all about Being in love. What do you love about your partner. Tell him specifically. What turns you on about your partner, whisper the specifics to him. Not with the intention of making something happen, but rather with an attitude of an open and grateful heart.

What is something you might do together that allows each of you to slow down and relax? If you go to dinner, don’t talk about the day. Don’t talk about the past, don’t talk about the future, the baseball scores, your worries or upsets. Simply be together. Hold hands. Be loving. Walk lovingly. Smile. Be of good cheer. Look directly at you sweetheart. Tell them how happy they have made you. Tell them how much you appreciate what they have done for you, how they’ve made your life easier. Ask them if there is anything you can do to make their life easier. and intimate rendezvous begins with intimate heartfelt talk.

Believe it or not, some of the most intimate rendezvous can happen when you skip the expectations that you have and simply lead with your heart that day. Let go of the expectations around this day and simply love yourself and your partner. Do some thing to show that you do.

Rachel: Oh there are so many things you can do. The first is to set aside some time – some REAL time. If that means hiring a babysitter, then so be it! Then, pay attention to what you both like to do best! Going out to dinner can be great, but staying in can be just as fun, and can often give you more freedom to do exactly what you like. When both of you bring a positive attitude to your Valentine’s Day date (or to any of your date nights) you are more than halfway there. Enthusiasm only leads to more enthusiasm (and excitement!), especially in the bedroom.

Hello and welcome to Enhancing Sexual Desire week on Long Relationships.

Rachel Greene Baldino and Judy Ford have taken over this blog for the week and are answering questions about enhancing sexual desire to matter how long you have been in your relationship.

If you would like the chance to win a copy of the book, check out this post.

“How do we get in touch with our sensuality?”

Judy: Everyone has a sensuous side and to re-ignite those joyful sensations, you have to pay close attention to your body. When you take a shower pay attention to the silky feel of the soap, pay attention to the warmth of the water running down your skin, pay attention to how the wash cloth feels on your face.

When you touch your husband’s check, feel his whiskers brush your face. Buy yourself roses and pay attention to how they smell. Pay attention to your partner’s energy. Tell him how much you like touching his hand, his face. Tell him how good is touch feels. Tell him that his arms around you bring you chills and that you feel like melting.

The more you verbalize to him how excited you are at seeing him walk into the room, the more you sensuous side will come out of the box.

Rachel: There are loads of fun, exciting ways to get back in touch with your sensual side. For instance, taking a hot bath or going for a massage or a mani-pedi, or picking flowers for yourself. Anything that allows you to enjoy and get back in touch with any of your five senses offers you a way to get back in touch with your inner source of joy and playfulness.

Welcome back to Enhancing Sexual Desire week here at Long Relationships.

This week, the lovely ladies who wrote The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire, Rachel Greene Baldino and Judy Ford, are answering a question about enhancing sexual desire each day.

This month the ladies are touring with Pump Up Your Book Promotion Virtual Tours to get the word out about their book. (And it’s an excellent book I’m happy to have a copy of! If you would like a free copy, check out this post.) Whether you are new to a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, this book has something for you!

I hope you’ll join me in welcoming them to the site!

Today Rachel answers a question that may seem to have an obvious answer but we all needed to be reminded of every now and then.

“What are a few emotional triggers that will kill sexual drive and what can we do about it?”

Rachel: Well, of course, the biggest culprit is anger – or rather anger that is inappropriately expressed, or expressed at the wrong time or place. Couples fight, and healthy fighting with a mutual goal of resolution can even lead to communication breakthroughs and increased emotional intimacy. But fighting that is cruel or pointless is one of the biggest mood killers there is.

JM says: Absolutely! Anger - especially pointlessly dragged out anger - is a poison for relationships. It’s normal to fight, but make sure your feelings and problems are being taken care of. If you’re going to bed angry more times than not, it’s time to sit down with your partner and figure out your relationship.

Thanks again, Rachel!

Hello everyone, and welcome (back) to Long Relationships!

This week is a very special one, as the ladies who wrote The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Enhancing Sexual Desire (pictured on the left), Rachel Greene Baldino and Judy Ford, are taking over my blog this week! Every day this week, one or both of the ladies will be answering a question about their book and about enhancing sexual desire in your relationship.

Whether you’re new to a relationship or have been in one for twenty years, this book can help you put some spark into your sex life as well as help you to nurture the physical side of your relationship.

So, without further ado, I turn this blog over to the lovely ladies who wrote this book.

On to today’s question!

“What is the main reason we lost sexual desire and what can we do to put more zing in our labido?”

Rachel: In talking to couples and just living life, we have learned that it’s not so much that couple’s lose their desire. Rather, they get focused on other things and their sex lives seem to fall by the wayside.

That’s why we spend so much time in the book talking about the importance of having couple time, in the bedroom, but also outside of it, that is, time where the two of you can set aside all your other concerns and focus exclusively on one another. So it’s really a question of refocusing and reprioritizing, and remembering that your relationship is meant to be fun, and a source of great joy and replenishment.