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Bonus Love Question

by JM

heart.jpgI finished up the last love question and realized that there was already another question up to be answered. So, as a bonus for this week (TGIF!), here is my answer to the second question.

This tag comes courtesy of Short Sweet Love Poems (I had the name wrong in the last post).

When it comes to matters of the heart, often times we are blinded by emotions. We act irrationally and love is also illogical. But love resides in our heart and it is our heart that tells us if we are happy or sad. Comparatively, our head gives us power of reasoning and logic which helps to prevent us from being hurt or betrayed. In life, we do need to be rational but rationality do not bring love and happiness although it protects.

So, for Love Q #2:

When it comes to love, is it better to follow your head or your heart?

Well, that’s a bit of a tough one and has been the subject of many books, movies and poems.

For me, it depends what ‘stage’ you are in. When you are in the rose-tinted glasses stage, it’s better to use your head. The rose tint can cause you to ignore your instincts and do some pretty stupid things. I am absolute no exception to this.

When you have been in a relationship for longer than that, then it’s better to use your heart because you’re more likely to go through tough times when you’re really going to need that heart of yours.

What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with me?

Be sure to stop by Amidrin and Jo-N to see what they have to say on the matter.

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6 Responses to “Bonus Love Question”

  1. Jenera Says:

    I think it’s a bit of both actually for me. You have to think with both your head and heart.

  2. Shannon Says:

    I’m with Jenera…a balance of both. In the earlier stage of my relationship I definitely went with my heart way too much! I’m going on 15 years now so it’s not really even a big issue for me anymore. But things that he got away with when I was younger because my heart was more engaged than my head, I had to reprogram him about over time because they don’t fly with who I am now. That’s one of the challenges when you get together young. You are having to grow up together, which is fun in some aspects (lots of shared memories and we know each others thoughts so easily), but challenging too.

  3. Aud Says:

    Thanks for joining in again. Actually, you have a point there. For me, I think I would follow my heart all the way when young but now, I would definitely follow my head if a suitor comes along. I guess as you grow older, following your heart blindly no longer happens because of more wisdom and less tolerance for deception and getting hurt.

  4. JM Says:

    Yes, with age definitely comes a bit of wisdom in these matters. :) Still, I’m very much a heart person, even though I know it occasionally gets me in trouble. ;)

  5. JO-N Says:

    Hi JM, nice answer. It is indeed a difficult question and I would go for both heart and head.

  6. JM Says:

    JO-N - Thank you, and thank you for stopping by. :)

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