Author Maria Swan Guest Post - Dating for Dummies
Today, on one of the major Boomer Women Forums there was this lengthy discussion about dating. I don’t know if they all drank from the same well or bit into the same apple but the negativity ran rampant.
After reading post after post bashing men and sex I was truly disgusted. I would have let that slide, but just before I had the chance to sign off, a member, a mental health professional no less, had the nerve to post a long piece, pummeling love into a useless drivel. I felt my head exploding, I could no longer contain myself. Here is my answer, let me know if you agree or if you think I was off base.
My post:
Are you all for real? Never have women over 50 be so sexually active as right now! Where do you think the term ‘cougar’ originated from? The jungle? Yeah, the sexual jungle, undress accordingly.
I have a book, came out in May 2008 from Dorchester, Boomer Babes - True Tales of Love and Lust in The Later Years - as a matter of fact, the publisher sent a copy to this site for review, I also wrote an article on dating for Boomers, it must be buried somewhere around this web site, and I offered to do a teleseminar for all interested members.
Why? Because every time I do a book signing, the place is packed with single Boomer Babes, and the occasional brave man. The subject? Men! What makes my day is when some woman from the audience and the occasional man, exchange phone numbers.
If I could get a match for every book signing I’ll be a very happy writer. Love is a very important part of our life, love is ageless, love makes everything better. Am I passionate about it? You bet! I hope it’s okay to enter my web site, www.boomerbabesbook.com, check me out, I practice what I preach.
Ladies, do remember, even if boomers did not invent love, they did bring the art of loving to a new level, can you think of any other generation that openly acknowledges, better yet, openly embraces sex over fifty? And over sixty? It was on our watch that the birth control pill came to pass, and later, still on our watch, Viagra changed the way we view sex. Okay, I’m done, sorry, I couldn’t help myself. I’m signing out, wishing you love, and sex, not necessarily in that order.
Maria Grazia Swan
July 10th, 2008 at 8:40 am
You’re not off base at all Maria. Love is so important for people in many ways. Let me tell you a childhood story.
My parents got into an argument one night after dinner and my mother ended up storming out. I followed her. She told me she was leaving and I tried to talk her out of it as I raced to catch up with her.
“I can’t take this anymore!” she screamed.
My 8-year-old mind searched for something to say. “Okay, just take me with you.”
Mother flew around to face me. “No, I’m sick of all of you.” Then she stormed off to God knows where.
My mother died when I was 14 and this is still the most vivid memory I have of her. Of course, she came back in when she calmed down, but she never reassured me afterwards that she loved me nor did she apologize for what she said. And this incident impacts my relationships til this day.
When love is genuine, whether it be between two adults or a parent and a child, it is one of the best aspects of life.
Best of luck with the tour!
Cheryl
July 10th, 2008 at 1:06 pm
Oh, Cheryl, it may sound patronizing, but I do feel your pain. You see, I was raised my grandparents. I’m not going to bore you with details, but like you, when I think of love and childhood, it is the face of my grandmother I see in my mind’s eye, not my mother. Be strong, time helps. M.G. Swan
July 11th, 2008 at 10:07 am
Am I missing something? I don’t see the part of what you were reacting to besides your description of it. I can’t say whether you are off base or not without seeing that. But I’m glad you got the opportunity to promote your book again.