Are You Real? - Part Two
Yesterday I talked about one of the things I love about my husband is the fact that he’s always ‘real’ with people, no matter who they are. He doesn’t change because someone is poor or rich or female or male… He is who he is – the man I love. Unlike me, who doesn’t have ‘masks’ per se, but I do act differently around different people.
This got me thinking about whether or not it’s easier for guys to be ‘real’ than it is for women.
We have all heard countless reports and studies about social pressures for women, how women are treated differently, so on and so forth. But does that mean ‘being yourself’ comes easier for men than it does for women? Do guys have an easier time being comfortable with themselves?
Is it just a guy thing?
I’m inclined to think not. My marriage started out as an internet romance, and I think part of the reason it continued on successfully through the transition from online to physical reality is because my husband and I were always ‘real’ with each other. We didn’t do the ‘masks’ thing and we never tried to be anything that we weren’t.
I also know that, strangely enough, I am more comfortable with myself and who I am than my husband is, despite the fact that he’s more himself more of the time than I am.
What do you think? Do men have just as many masks as women or is it easier for men to be ‘real’ all the time?
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