Long Relationships

You’ve heard the old saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” right? Well, there is a reason this saying has survived for so many years.

It’s true.

However, as any dieter on this planet will tell you – moderation is key. You still need to spend quality time with your spouse/significant other if you don’t want things to fizzle out.

Do you want to wake up in a few years and realize you’re only doing things the way you are because “it works for now” and “it’s easy”? Passion isn’t always easy, but it’s good to have and keep going in a relationship.

Last night on television I saw a news clip about parents using shock treatment to deal with out of control kids. I sat there and thought, “Is this what society has brought us to? Medication and shock treatment to deal with kids we no longer have time to deal with?”

I by no means want to insult any parent who has a kid who is so out of control they feel they have no other way to go, but this is a horrifying thing. And if we don’t have time to care for our children without such extreme measures, then how are we supposed to have times to cultivate meaningful and long-lasting relationships?

Here are five ways to help you rekindle romance or keep it going when your life becomes about meetings, kids, homework, etc.

1.) Bring flowers/a beer/etc home. She might ask what you did wrong or he might not thank you, but “just because” surprises let your someone know you are thinking about him/her.

2.) Massages! Massages are not only erotic, they show you care, make your other feel good, and helps you to bond through touch.

3.) This sort of goes along the lines of number one but a little different. Bring home or cook his/her favorite food. My husband loves oysters and I bring them home as a surprise treat every now and then for him to enjoy. I love them to, so we can sit back for a few minutes and “mmm” about it.

4.) E-cards are easy, fun, and you can find thousands of them on the internet. They can be sexy, sweet, funny, or a combination of those. Talking/no talking, music/no music… Some you can even personalize with your own photos! E-cards are a quick, easy, and FREE way to make someone else’s day brighter.

5.) Write a letter. You can take as much time as you want, writing a few sentences now and then. Write a long letter to the one you love about how much they mean in your life, how much you appreciate him/her, and/or just saying you were thinking about him/her. Then send it to his/her workplace, put it as a nice surprise in the glove compartment of the car, or send it to your own address and let him/her grab the mail for the next couple of days.